My mom was so positive. She tried to always live in the moment. She saw the best in everything. She saw the beauty in her day to day world. I have often wondered how she was like that. When she was alive she would often try to explain it to me. She gave me a book to read – The Power of Now. I couldn’t get through the first few pages. We were so different. I have tried since she passed away to wake up and think – Oh what a great day, the sun is shining and today will be amazing. But then I just laugh at myself because that is just so asinine. It isn’t how I think. I can’t make myself be that way. There are days I am happier and upbeat. There are days I am not. There are definitely more days of not happy and upbeat. Does that make me a miserable, unhappy person? Not really. I think it makes me realistic. Each day is not a joy…but I am thankful that I have each day. Every day I am thankful for my beautiful little boy….even when he drives me nuts. I just don’t look at the glass as half full…I never have and I don’t think I should make myself try – it isn’t realistic for me. I think my glass is too full. It is overflowing. Not overflowing with bad or good. Just overflowing with life.
When my mom was diagnosed with brain cancer, I knew right away we were going to lose her. I don’t know why, but I knew she wouldn’t live long. Some thought that was a very bad way to look at her illness – but I chose to be realistic about it. I still did have hope that I was wrong and she would beat her cancer…but I didn’t let myself get into that hope too much – I didn’t want to be let down. I did the research – I saw her odds – and I saw her. I knew her so well. She was so positive the whole time – so amazing. But she never seemed scared, never showed emotion. And I believe that was to protect us. And because of that, I knew she knew. My mom was so in tune with herself, her body, her being. I think she knew it wasn’t good. She would fight the good fight…and she did – like a warrior…but in the end, it was her time and she knew.
I think a lot of times I am negative. I always think the worst will happen. It is a defense mechanism of course. If I tell myself the worst will happen and it does – I am not disappointed. If it turns out better – great. It seems silly I know, but it tends to work for me…so I will just keep going with it. Sorry Mom – I just don’t have your genes when it comes to positive thinking. But that doesn’t mean I won’t keep trying….and I know when I do you are watching down smiling.