Thursday, January 19, 2012

First Post

Blogging.  What does it mean?  Why would I want to do it?  I mean, who would ever care what I have to say?  The truth is I am drawn to it because it meant a lot to  my mom.  She was an avid blogger and had quite a following.  http://www.fourdogday.blogspot.com/.   I didn’t read her blog everyday when she was here…but now that she is gone her blog is like gold to me.  I mean, don't take that the wrong way - I am not blogging just in case I die to leave my family an online memoir.  But for the past few months I have wanted to give it a try.  So I will.  I may not keep up with it.  I may not like it.  I may quit.  Or not.  Who knows.

Anyway, I am 37 year old married mother of an almost 16 month old.  My husband, Chris, and I live in his original bachelor pad in Chicago which we are trying to sell so we can move on to the suburbs and buy a house.  Ahhh…when I write it really sounds so stereotypical I could vomit.  But it is what it is.  Since I had my son my life has none the less become chaos.  Typical I assume.  I feel lucky in the morning to get out of the house with matching socks.  I work part time (4 days a week, 6 hours a day) …but I have a long commute – so I really feel like I am out of the house full time.  Right now we have a  nanny 3 days a week and my son goes to my MIL one day a week.  But he soon will start daycare.  Good luck to them and him.  He has  no schedule and no structure.  Our fault of course, but I thought it was best for him to just be “free”.  We will see how he adapts in a few weeks.

Life with a toddler is….well….insane.  When people ask me when we are having another I want to laugh hysterically and say NEVER.  I don’t know if that is true or not, but we live in a one bedroom condo on the 3rd floor with no elevator and my kid still doesn’t sleep through the night because his crib is like 5 feet away from me.  So having another kid just isn’t in the cards right now.  And may never be.  All my life I wanted to have a child.  Now I have one.  And it is tough.  Don’t get me wrong – he makes me happy every single day.  I love him more than anything.  But there is nothing easy about being a parent.  

I always feel so disheartened by those amazing moms that just seem to ooze motherhood and being domestic.  I feel like I just am running around like a maniac hoping, like I said earlier, to get out of the house with matching socks.  I was never like this before.  I kept a very clean home, I liked having matching, well fitting, fashionable clothing, I didn’t allow for chipped fingernail polish….etc.  But now as an example…we were having a showing for our condo the other day and had about 1 hour to clean before Chris got home with the kid.  I was running around cleaning and when I got to the bathroom hand towels I realized I just didn’t want to deal with laundry but I knew they were dirty.  So…as gross as it is…I turned them around because the other side looked fine.  Jesus.  Who am I?  I have no idea.  Seriously.  I have no idea who this person is I have become, but I am pretty sure I am a mommy who has chipped nailpolish, is crammed tightly into my jeans which don’t look flattering, has my wet hair in a ponytail to go to work and has a minimally clean house.  Is that wrong? 

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